It is not Just a language: 5 tips to master small-talk & rock family events
Have you ever wondered why your parents insist on speaking their native language at home? It is because it is a big chunk of who they are but also to allow you the get all the nuances when you are in social setting.
You know these situations when you go to a family gathering and you have to face all the annoying remarks. Your auntie pinches your cheeks and say, "Oh, you're so Americanised/Germanised (insert any nationality), you can't even speak our language." Your grandma shakes her head and mutter, "Kids these days, they don't care about their roots."…
We don’t like these situations and I do not want to justify this inappropriate behaviour and I would go as far all call it bullying. It doesn’t really solve the “problem” either, it just makes the whole event awkward and makes us avoid family gatherings.
But do people take “native language acquisition/learning” so seriously
Short answer: it is because it is very closely linked to identity and culture.
Culture is a complex concept that includes beliefs, values, customs, traditions … that define us as a group or society. It's passed down from generation to generation through various channels, such as family, education, religion, and media. Language is one of these channels, as it reflects the culture and worldview of a community.
Therefore, when we transmit language, we also transmit culture. We teach our children not only how to speak a language but also how to understand and appreciate the culture behind it. This is particularly important for bilingual families or communities who want to preserve their heritage and identity.
By passing down the language and culture to the next generation, we ensure that our traditions and values are not lost or forgotten.
So if you want to be prepared for the next big family event, here are some tips for mastering small talk and be up to date:
Watch soap operas: Yes, I know, they're cheesy and melodramatic, but they're also a great way to learn the language and culture of your family. You'll pick up new words and phrases, learn about local customs and traditions, and maybe even get some fashion tips.
Eat the food: Food is a huge part of culture, and it's also delicious. So, don't be afraid to try new dishes and flavors. Ask your parents to teach you how to cook traditional meals, or take a cooking class in your community.
Dance like nobody's watching: Dancing is another fun and creative way to connect with your culture. Whether it's a traditional folk dance or a modern hip-hop routine, get your groove on and show off your moves.
Travel to your parents’ home country: If you have the opportunity, travel to the country of your family's origin. Immerse yourself in the language, culture, and customs of the locals. You'll gain a deeper understanding of your heritage and maybe even make some new friends.
Speak the language: Last but not least, speak the language with your family and relatives. Even if you make mistakes, they'll appreciate your effort and enthusiasm. And who knows, maybe you'll become so fluent that you'll start dreaming in the language.
So, there you have it. The importance of culture in language transmission is not just about preserving traditions, but also about avoiding awkward situations at family gatherings. Embrace your cultural identity, learn the language, and impress your relatives with your newfound skills. Who knows, you might even enjoy it.